My Darling Esteban,
I see that you have had a Personal Trainer for a while now and it seems to be working out for you.
How do you know if your trainer hates you or not? I think mine hates me immensely. I’ve been with him for about 3 months now and he ignores me most times and never corrects my form and if he does its loud enough for the entire gym to hear. I’m not one for confrontation but if he’s never shown me the proper form, how does he expect me to get it? It’s really embarrassing now and I try to just play it off, but its getting to be too much now.
What should I do? I’m conflicted here
Oh and did I mention that he is really really really HOT?
Honestly what should I do?
Signed Money Jumping Up
Dear Money Jumping Up,
Quick Question: When you chose this Personal Trainer, were you looking for a man or for someone to actually help you with your fitness goals?
It sounds as if you chose him for his looks and hoped that by association he would eventually:
· Give you piece
· Touch you up
· Become your boyfriend
· Be something more…
All in all, I want to believe you chose him for the wrong reasons. Right now you are in an abusive relationship where you are paying the abuser and reaping no benefits/perks through this association. BTW always chose a trainer that you are hotter than (even if it’s only in your mind)as it helps you to maintain your focus on your body goals.
Now the relationship I have with my trainer is borderline abusive/unhealthy at best, but because we communicate a lot (well argue constantly), I understand that he really wants me to get over my “Bullshit excuses” and take my training to another level. There have been times when I think he is on the verge of cuffing me down (but I know God has my back) but I stick around because I need the discipline of an exercise regime drilled into me. That, plus he’s offered multiple times (first few month of training) to give me back my money as he said he doesn’t need the stress in his life. That gesture made me know that I don’t have the upper hand with him at all.
Anyway, If you still think your trainer has your best interest at heart, then I will say talk to him seriously outside of the gym environment about your expectations from him and his expectations of you. If he’s not willing to listen or even accommodate, then tell Ike that Anna Mae is not eating the cake!
Find a new trainer. They are like ants these days ( just all over the place). I can recommend a few to you that will abuse you but in a good way.
If you are scared to break it off with the trainer then I recommend the following solutions:
– Just leave the gym you are in now and find a new one
– Tell him your boyfriend doesn’t want you training with a pretty boy. If he asks for a name, give him mine. (me aint fraid no PT)
– Join one of those group training sessions that do workouts in the Savannah, Stadium or on the beach. That way no one will target you specifically and you will be saving money.
Update me on how this break up goes….