People have asked me, if I have ever been in love and when my response results in a “No” , they are shocked. It is the common belief that we have all been in love at some point in time
By my definition or “understanding” of love, I have to say that I have been “in like”, “strong infatuation” and “in lust” way too many times, but love…ummm never!
I am sure of it!
Then this happens………
On Wednesday afternoon, I pick up my god-daughter, Kai, from school to carry her home to Chaguanas. All is going as planned so far. We first stop off at Hi-Lo in Woodbrook to secure a juice box, some gummi bears and bottle of water. While there she spots a toy purse with Dora the Explorer plastered all over it.
Kai: Uncle Tefan can I get Dora please!
I smile and first think if her mommy would be pleased if I purchased it. Fearing a sharp scolding and probably a thump in the head, I answered Kai:
Me: No Kai, we will get you Dora for Christmas, but not now
Kai’s face gives a slightly puzzled look and continues to look at the toy.
Kai: But I want Elmo
Me: Well will see about getting you those things for Christmas
Kai: But ah want it now.
I smile and push the stuff towards the Cashier to ring up and pretend she didn’t almost win an argument with me. I can’t always be a pushover.
Ok we are off again.
There is a heavy amount of traffic on Wrightson Road and as a result we are stuck in it with slight movement every few minutes or so. Kai was singing to a song on the radio when all of sudden it was announced:
Kai: Uncle Tefan, I need to wee wee.
Me: (slightly panicking) Oh ok Kai, we will get you to a place just now.
Traffic is not moving an inch. I see Capital Plaza (formerly Crowne Plaza) ahead and I think it is an ideal spot for her to use the bathroom.
Two minutes later……….
Kai: Uncle Tefan I think it coming down!
Now, listen, I am not about to let my goddaughter pee at the side of the road like some proletariat’s offspring so I start looking at options.
- I can park the car and run with her in my hands to Capital Plaza and hopefully she can make it there.
- I have an empty glad container in the car and she can use that until we can sort stuff out.
Ok, yes I know the last idea was very bad but I was worried about her discomfort in slow moving traffic.
We start creeping to London Street and I see this Tyre shop called “Quick Service” at the corner and realise that if traffic were moving faster we could be by Capital Plaza in no time.
Kai: Uncle Tefan I have to go.
With that statement I climb the pavement and drive into the Tyre Shop, grab her out of the car and ask the woman at the front desk if there is a customer bathroom nearby. She points me in the direction of it and we are off.
We get there only to discover that the door is locked and therefore someone is inside.
Kai: Why we not going in?
Me: Because the door is locked so that means someone is in there. Hopefully they will finish quickly to help out this little girl who needs to use the bathroom (said in the direction of the door)
Did you think that person took me on?
Oh hell no, Mr Man came took his time and came out like 5 minutes later while everyone in the store could see the child’s discomfort. He didn’t even apologise. We had to clear the way to let him pass as he was a portly gentleman and I braced myself for the smell that might follow his extended bathroom visit.
Thankfully, the smell was mild and we got through the ordeal without any soiled clothing.
We drove up to Chaguanas incident free but I did have to play Glee’s version of Gangnyam Style like 10 times because she wasn’t interested in hearing any other song I had in my Car’s CD player or iPod.
After dropping her home and driving back down to town, I realised that my fear wasn’t her wetting my car seats, I worried about the humiliation she would feel over the incident and how uncomfortable the rest of the trip might have been for her.
It was at that moment that it hit me. I love this child unconditionally. My first impulse was not to protect my nice recently acquired car or the upholstery (which is normally my modus operandi when dealing with adults who sit in my car), it was the child’s well being.
Wow, am I growing up?
So this is the way love feels? Hmm not bad.
I could grow to like this!